Why do I have fears? And why did I have three miscarriages even though I believe God will keep my baby safe?
Why do I have fear?
Please read the verse below and study carefully the passages that they come from.
Psalms 34:4 “I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.”
Psalms 91:4-6 “He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.”
Luke 12:32 “Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”
You fear for two reasons, first of all you are human and as a human you must grow in your daily walk with Christ Jesus, and secondly you have to pray and study the scripture daily in order to gain Spiritual strength. As you move through life and learn to allow the Holy Spirit to take total charge of you, you will find less and less fear in your mind.
Why did I have three miscarriages even though I believe God will keep my baby safe?
John 14:1 “Let not your heart be troubled: you believe in God, believe also in me.”
Romans 5:3 “And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience.”
2 Corinthians 4:17 “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.”
No one can answer the questions you have asked for our ways are not God’s ways and we sometimes do not understand the workings of God until later in life and perhaps not even until after this life is over. But we do know that God has never made mistakes, thus we have to accept His will and carry on with our life. Perhaps next time you will have a child, or perhaps God has a plan for you that may not include children, who can say?
Another thought, and please I am not a prophet and know nothing except that I feel impressed to say this to you, sometimes we have to pay a price in our flesh because of the sin we took part in as a sinner. Let me give an example, perhaps a drug addict gets saved and yet there is damage done to the physical body that God does not heal, then that person may very well suffer because of past sin. Remember God is saving souls and regardless of salvation and healings these bodies of flesh are mortal and will get sick, and old.
2Corinthians 12:10 “Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.”
Galatians 4:13 “Ye know how through infirmity of the flesh I preached the gospel unto you at the first.”
2Timothy 4:20 “Erastus abode at Corinth: but Trophimus have I left at Miletum sick.”
1 Timothy 5:23 “Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach’s sake and thine often infirmities.”
2 Corinthians 12:7 “And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure.”
Notice in the last four verses the scripture tells us that Paul, Timothy and Erastus all had sickness and we know they were God’s favored servants. There are many today that teach that all sickness is sin and that is just not biblical.
For more strength and wisdom to help us with our fears.
We can’t understand why one would lose a baby before birth. We don’t have the answers to those questions. We can only have faith that one day we will see that child in Heaven and then our questions will be answered. All the answers to all the questions we ever wanted to know but couldn’t figure out will be revealed to us when we come face to face with our Lord and Savior.
The real answer to your heartbreaking question is, Only God knows why your babies were not born alive. We do know that, “of such are the kingdom of heaven”; so we can rejoice in the sure and certain knowledge that all three of the sweet little ones will live forever, in perfect happiness, in our Saviour’s Presence. In the Bards’ words, “A consummation devoutly to be desired.”
The cure for fear is perfect love, which “casts out fear.” When we love our Lord perfectly we are saved, for we must love Him and one another to be saved, Lk 10.25-28. And to love God is to obey Him, 1 Jn 5:3. So, to love God is to obey God, and He saves those who obey Him, Heb 5:9.
Knowing this, from the inerrant scriptures, what have we to fear? God wants us all to be saved, 1 Tim 2:3-4. He loves us with an all-powerful love, 1 Jn : 9-10, and if we reciprocate that love, we are promised the crown of life, Rev 2:10.
Your three little ones are safe in His Arms; and you will be, too, if you do His will, Mt 7:21-23.
I believe God doesn’t want us to live in fear. I alone with you asked myself the very same question 19 years ago when I had a miscarriage. The scripture you are looking for on this is Psalms 34:4 “I sought the Lord, and he answered me he delivered me from all my fears.” Just remember that everything that God does happens for a reason. And something would have been wrong with these babies and God knows what is best for us all.
Hello. You/we have fears because you/we are just human. I think it’s one of the first signs we see in Adam and Eve at the entrance of sin. Sin has made us so insecure about our future and truly all the chaos going on around us today are one great mark of the results of the original sin – hence our fears. Our fears are mainly due to what we hope to have – life undisturbed. That’s why when the serpent suggested to Eve, “you shall not surely die” man thought he would be safe if he avoids death. If we are safe from death, then we are safe indeed – this is written in our every fear and we are totally wrong. It should not be safety from death which should make us safe indeed, but by being connected to the source of life are we to be truly secure – John 11 verse 25,26.
Why miscarriages? Why unfair deaths like those in South Africa? Why all those deaths like the ones in China after the earthquake? Why… I think there are many questions the LORD will have to answer on that day. But for Job that day came sooner than was expected. I want to believe we simply have to trust Him and wait for His explanation that day. His and ours are different.
We all fear because our love is not made perfect, given that perfect love caseth away all fears. Love can only be made perfect as we daily take a fastening hold on the wonderful love of God in us and as to allow Christ to live in us. As of the miscarriages, I am limited to speak in this regard, but that I can I will – God permits these things and will permit others of varying nature and still declares to us that all things work together for our good to them that love Him. It is a very difficult thing, but let us love and trust God as only He known best.
Fear is lack of faith…
Having faith need a lot of believes in whatever you do…
People often ask why Jesus prayed a lot, he did to strengthen his faith and believe with God.
Jesus trusted God and he knew that he (God) will never let him down or put him to situation he will never handle.
For us to build our relationship with God we have to confide in him, tell him about your fear and ask him to be there for you.
Never doubt his power and never allow yourself to be defeated by negative remarks…
God is power, God is believing! God is our father and he is our creator (Psalms139 1-24). There is nothing he doesn’t know about you but he needs you to talk to him and believe in him. For you to have a relationship with God you need to pray every day… God is a jealous God and he doesn’t want any person before him.
Seek his love, trust in his and worship him.
Fear is a demonstration of the believer’s doubt, belief of God’s inability to have all situations in His control. It contradicts and denies the Omnipotent attribute of God, and it further places Him on questionable façade of His veracity. All the mentioned facts may occur to the believer in ignorance of the God he/she professes to serve.
It is imperative for the believer to know that the baseline of Christianity which is pleasing and acceptable to the Lord is complete faith in Him (Hebrews 11:6), and anything short of this has no place in the word of God.
Our body afflictions should not be the gauge or determined factor to come to Jesus Christ for salvation or to quantify His presence in our lives and love for us. What love can be greater than what He has already demonstrated toward us (John 3:16; Romans 5:8). All other problems that befall a believer are no match to the above scriptures; it simply proofs that it is His will that we are fine body, soul and spirit.
We should acknowledge the fact that some of the problems we go through in life may be due to past mistakes, e.g. a lady that engages in several abortion practices in the past is likely to put up with such health complications. In this way your faith in Christ now that you are a believer guarantees you a place in His heavenly inheritance. The Lord acts according to His will for you in that the miscarriage may stop either miraculously or medically. The point I am trying to establish here is that if none happens and the problem persists, God is very much in control and you are still His possession.
Secondly, it may be because of some kind of natural malfunction in the body system that is beyond present day medical capability. In this case, borrow a leaf from the heroes of faith in the Bible who waited patiently for years for God’s intervention at His own time in their situations. (Hebrews 11:11) Some believed Him even to the point of death without having the affliction removed.
Lastly, it may also be there due to spiritual affliction from the forces of darkness because of one’s faith in Christ. (2 Timothy 3:12). All you simply have to do is to believe and do not faint or think that the departure of the situation or problem is the proof of the Lord’s care for you. Just the same way He visited those in Bible times at His own time you will receive help from Him. Pray, believe, maintain your Christian obligations, and do not abandon going for church fellowship. (Hebrews 10:25)
Remember the case of Hannah in 1 Samuel chapters 1&2; she suffered for long but maintained her faithfulness as a believer and the Lord eventually granted her need.
Wait on the Lord in faithfulness (Psalm37:4-5) and consider your great reward above whichever way He chooses to respond. 2 Corinthians 4: 15-18.
May God bless you.